In a perfect world, you and your partner would care about each other equally, but there’s always the possibility that one person will love harder, care more, and put in more effort. You probably don’t even realize it, but you’re technically in a relationship by yourself. Here are 11 signs you care more about them than they do about you.
1. YOU DO ALL THE WORK.
When someone gives a damn, they’ll put in the work to show you they care. They’ll plan dates, open up doors, and take you away on a weekend getaway. You won’t have to question whether they care about you or not because it will show through their actions. If your partner has stopped pursuing you and you’re the one who’s breaking your back to keep your relationship alive, I have some bad news for you: they don’t care nearly as much as you do.
2. YOU’RE PUSHING FOR A LABEL.
A person who wants to tie you down and make sure you’re not seeing anyone else will bend over backward to make you their girlfriend. But if you’re the one pushing for a label and they’re not budging, your relationship is unbalanced. There’s no other way to say it—they’ll probably never feel as strongly for you as you do for them.
3. YOU ALWAYS PUT THEM FIRST BUT YOU’RE NEVER A PRIORITY.
Sometimes, you have to make sure your own needs are met in order to stay true to yourself and keep your sanity. If you’re always doing what they to do, watching movies they want to see, and eating at restaurants that they choose, you’re basically chopped liver. Your whole relationship revolves around them because you’re too far gone at this point. You care too much and it really shows.
4. YOU INITIATE AFFECTION EVERY SINGLE TIME.
Some people aren’t big on PDA—no big deal, right? Well, if they aren’t putting the moves on you in private either, you definitely have a problem on your hands. There should be some balance as to who initiates sex and affection, but if you’re the one who always has to make the first move, there’s no such thing for you.
5. YOU’RE ALWAYS THE FIRST ONE TO REACH OUT.
You haven’t heard from them in a few days and instead of waiting for them to call, you dial their number right away. They don’t even bother reaching out to you first because they already know you’re going to start blowing up their line when they go silent on you. How do they know this? Because it’s even obvious to them that you care way too much. Don’t you think you deserve better than this?
6. YOU DON’T HESITATE TO DROP EVERYTHING FOR THEM.
You’re always rearranging your schedule to accommodate them but they never really do the same for you. You already know they’ll never cancel their weekly night out with their crew, but you don’t hesitate to ditch your friends whenever they feel like hanging out.
7. YOU SETTLE FOR THE BARE MINIMUM.
You care too much, so you don’t think twice about settling for whatever scraps they throw your way. You know you should demand more but you’ve conditioned yourself to be happy with them no matter what. You’ll probably never walk away from the situation even though you know you really should. Don’t you think it’s about time you stopped caring so much?
8. YOU ASK MORE QUESTIONS.
You take an interest in their day, what they ate, who they saw, and what they did. But when it comes to them returning the favor, all you hear is crickets. If you feel like you’re the one who’s asking more “getting to know you” questions, it’s probably because you’re way more invested than they are.
9. YOU NEVER HANG UP FIRST.
A lot of people can’t stand talking on the phone, but they’ll suck it up and deal with it for a girl they really care about. They’ll even hesitate when it comes to ending the call because they just want to stay on the line and listen to your beautiful voice all night long. But if your partner is always cutting your conversations short and you’re never the first one to end the call, this is a major red flag.
10. YOU TAKE UP ALL THEIR HOBBIES.
There’s nothing wrong with joining in on your partner’s hobbies, but do they do the same for you? If you care more than they do, you’ve probably noticed that you sit through all of their favorite TV shows and you don’t mind seeing their favorite artist in concert. But do they do the same for you? If you’re always gung-ho to try something new just to appease them, they should be doing the same. Sadly, this will probably never happen. You’re stuck in a lopsided relationship.